Guys – there’s one dating mistake you’re almost certainly making. You want her to like you, and like what you’re into, so you tend to get somewhat one-sided. (Note: don’t go visibly pale if she says “lobster”.) 9.
Our research shows it’s the number-one turn off in women, but is committed by 95% of men. Occasionally you’ll lob in a question, but then her answer will spark a funny memory so you find yourself off again on a rhetorical mission. Women prefer dates to be an equal exchange of information. And long-term, women are looking for partners they can talk to. Below you’ll find a list of 20 great date questions.
What are the strengths/weaknesses of your personality type? Personality compatibility is far more important than many think. If he doesn’t support efforts to demand more accountability for police, despite widespread images of black men, women and children being murdered where no one is held accountable — BYE! Do you have a problem with natural hair, permed hair, weaves, braids or any other black hairstyle? According to the NAACP, 1 in 6 Black men have and it is projected that if trends continue, 1 in 3 black men will likely spend time in prison during their lifetime. This does not mean that there is anything inherently wrong with ascribing to certain concepts of masculinity or femininity, but in a society that constantly strips black people from access to those “ideals”, it can become troublesome if that is all one’s sense of identity is built on. Would you have a problem running a household/taking care of kids while a woman worked?
Some black men are quick to criticize women for their hairstyle choices, while simultaneously holding women to Eurocentric beauty standards. A black man can appreciate the beauty of black women’s personal presentation choices and self-expression. Depending on what kind of a record a man has, he may be barred from social services and many types of work opportunities. Many Black men have been or will be unemployed at some point in their lives. Sit around the house watching football all day, while you run about cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids and working?
You may be afraid of rejection, failure, saying the wrong things and coming across like a loser in front of your date.
In this context you would really love to know what are some good questions to ask your partner on your first date.
But I have a confession to make: I don’t answer every question that comes into my inbox.
I would love to be able to – I just don’t have the time. But on a positive note, I can offer the next best thing: A consolidated post all about answers to the most frequently asked dating tips and relationship problem advice questions that I see.
Do yourself a favor and ask potential partners these 18 questions to figure out if he may possibly be “the one.” 1. Not only will you glean many insights about yourself and your own personality, but it can help you consider whether or not you and your potential partner are a good match. Sometimes individuals are emotionally and mentally ready for committed relationships. When it comes to men, they will infrequently lie about what they are looking for, if you dare to ask. This especially applies to dates with non-black men. A man with very rigid ideas of masculinity or femininity best be able to live up to those ideas, or he’ll likely take it out on you or become depressed/despondent when his ability to “provide” is challenged (as it often is for black men in this society).There aren’t hard and fast rules about what’s a good vs. Research has shown that the most effective communication style in relationships is a flexible one. Why: This is primarily relevant if you're either an extreme night or an extreme morning person. The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder? Some women may be inquisitive by nature and may adopt a confrontational style on the first date itself.Men are advised to adopt humor to deflect such questions and women are asked to steer clear of such questions if they don’t want to see their first dates bolting at the slightest chance.Going for a first date can be pretty intimidating for most people.