They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.
Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
While there have been several studies on divorce, remarriage and step-parenting, very few exist for the courtship period parents go through before remarriage.
Here are some guidelines to consider concerning post-divorced dating and your children: Adjusting to the idea of dating isn’t just for parents. Constance Ahrons, author of The Good Divorce and We’re Still Family and professor emeritus at University Southern California, recently completed a 20 year longitudinal study on children of divorce.
Children between the ages 5 and 10 were more possessive of their mother than older children.
Most experts strongly advise keeping your dating life separate from your children until you become involved in a serious relationship that you’re certain is permanent.
Love the second time around is possible, but as parents with children, your evaluation process is much more complicated and should be very thorough.
One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.